i’m on a mission…
…to make sure there aren’t any moms crying on the train platform on their way to work.
Because years ago, I was that woman.
For so long, I was very good at following directions.
For 12 years, I forged a career that checked all the boxes. I did well. I climbed the ladder. I had the markings of success.
All despite the small voice in the back of my head who would say: “This isn’t quite right.”
I was good at ignoring this voice because a lot of the time, I felt “fine” when it came to my career.
It wasn’t great. It wasn’t terrible. It was just “fine.”
The problem was that I didn’t want “fine”. I wanted so much more than “fine”.
And that was agonizing.
Crying-on-the-subway-platform-behind-your-sunglasses kind of agonizing.
Sunday-Scaries-that-start-on-Saturday-night kind of agonizing.
Outside of work, my life was FUN.
My husband and I hopped from New York to Philadelphia to San Francisco.
We did all of the things. We explored. We ate. We drank. I packed in all of the fun whenever I could, because I rarely felt any fun at work.
Because what was my alternative, right?
I had major fear about leaving the well-trodden path I was already on. I had a lot of ideas of what I wanted to do but none of them seemed "realistic".
The moment I came up with a new idea, I came up with 100 reasons why it wouldn’t work.
I didn't want to do anything wrong, look stupid, or fail.
I thought I should have had it already figured out.
I felt envious of those who seemed completely in their element in their jobs.
But then I had my son. And everything changed.
Because my son would grow up with a mom who dreaded going to work every day.
I imagined him watching me stress out and march to a j.o.b. every morning.
I imagined him listening to me explain that I stayed in “just fine” career for this long because I was too scared to do anything else.
I imagined him catching me in those agonizing moments , believing there was no alternative.
That’s when motivation to make changes began to outweigh the fear of it.
If I hadn’t already made the changes I wanted to make in my life for ME, then I wanted to do it for my kids.
I wanted them to have a living, breathing example right in front of them of what was possible.
Fast forward a few years.
Now, I’m a life coach who has the privilege of working with ambitious, go-getter women who want more fulfillment and FUN out of their careers, so that they can live a life that they are proud to model to their kids.
A shift in my mindset was the key that set me free. Now, I bring that shift for my clients.
Instead of thinking of why a new career wasn’t realistic, I started to consider new possibilities and imagine all of the ways I could succeed.
Instead of focusing on how I needed to be “responsible”, I started to pay attention to what I really wanted.
The shifts have been small. But together they have formed a tidal wave of change in my life over the past 3 years.
I successfully reinvented my career in the midst of having two kids.
I completed two yoga teacher trainings on the weekends JUST BECAUSE I WANTED TO (did you know that you can still just do things that you want to do?)
I trained my brain to be calm when one kid is throwing a tantrum and the other is trying to lick the electrical outlet.
I pulled off a cross-country move with a 2.5 yr old and a 3 month old in DECEMBER (note: I do not recommend this), without losing my marbles.
I no longer feel guilty leaving my kids to work. Instead, I know it’s what’s best for them and for me.
Most importantly, I learned that I am in charge of my own happiness based on what I am thinking. And since I know that, I keep finding ways to create it.
I want to help as many hardworking moms as possible find their peace and fulfillment, too.
My wish for you is this:
You kiss your kiddos goodbye in the morning on your way to your kick-ass job with a pep in your step, knowing that even if they are screaming bloody murder at daycare drop-off, they will grow up seeing their strong, confident, capable mom being a badass boss lady (and I speak from experience, they will be fine in 2 minutes).
Want to know how coaching can help you get from where you are now, to where you want to be? I’d love to hear from you.